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V.
"MITEY."
Is those parts of the great metropolitan cemeteries in which the poor are
laid to rest, when their life's hard battle with poverty is over, there are no
"storied urns or animated busts" to tell who sleeps below, or to help to
make the place of burial in any degree a show-place. These parts generally lie
well back from the trim walks, and, viewed from a distance, and by contrast with
the "first-class ground" with its bravery of monumental masonry and gilded
inscription, they present a somewhat desolate and neglected appearance. But a
nearer inspection will show that the poor are not careless or neglectful of
their dead.
The
close-lying coffin-shaped mounds of earth which mark the sites of the graves
have many of them flowers or evergreen shrubs planted upon them; some have been
more or less successfully turfed ; while others have been set out with initials
or emblems traced in pebbles or shells. Simple memorials certainly, but
the work
of loving hands and tributes of loving hearts. One such grave in the cemetery of
my district attracts somewhat special attention, by reason of the fact that in
addition to being thickly set with sweet williams and other old-fashioned
flowers, it is marked by a home-made [-64-] slab-wood
head-board. On this is carved in rude capitals the word " Mitev,~" and under
that is written in rough uneven lettering the text, "Is it well with the child ?
It is well."
This
was not the work of any one akin to the child whose grave it marked. Her short
life's history was so far singular that it afforded a strongly contrasted
experience - an experience on the one hand of individual brutality where love
should have been, and, on the other hand, of that practical self-sacrificing
kindness of the poor to the poor, which never fails even among those who are
themselves suffering the direst pinch of poverty.
On entering one of the poorest streets of my district one morning, I could
see that the women were up in arms. They were talking together in groups ; and,
going up to the first of these, I inquired the cause of the commotion.
"Why," answered one of the women, "that brute Birch has took himself off
and deserted that poor little mite of a girl of his - a child only eight years
old, and a gentle little mortal as you'd a' thought any father would have been
fond of and cared for. They say he broke his wife's heart, and it is certain he
has pretty well broken the heart of the child, young as she is. It wasn't so
much his beating her, though he did that cruel at times when he happened to be
in drink or out of temper, it was the way he more than half-starved her, and
never had a kind word for her, and let her see - for even a child of eight can see
that sort of thing fast enough - that he would be glad to be rid of her."
"Where is the child?" I asked.
[-65-] "With old Mrs. James," the woman answered. "Birch lodged
with her, and he has not only left the little girl on her hands, but gone away
owing her eight weeks' rent. That was what sent him off, she was pressing him
to pay up. You see it was not a case of couldn't pay, but wouldn't. Though
through his own fault he hadn't regular work, he spent a good deal more in drink
every week than would have paid his rent."
I
knew the old Mrs. James referred to she was sixty years of age, and her
husband, who was considerably older, was a permanent invalid, and on that
account they were allowed 2s. 6d. a week by the parish. The wife worked at the
shirt trade when she could get work to do in competition with younger hands; but
her earnings were very small, as her eyesight was failing her. The old couple
had a son thirty years of age living with them, a steady, sober fellow, who
shared his earnings with his parents when he was in work. But he was only a
cas'alty labourer, poorly paid when in work, and often out of employment, as I
happened to know was the case with him at this particular juncture. They were a
quiet, self-respecting family, not given to "making a song" about their
poverty, and often having to live for days or even weeks at a stretch upon a cup
of weak tea and a crust of bread twice a day. Remembering all this, I remarked
in the woman with whom I had been speaking -
"Well, Mrs. James can't keep the
child, but if the father is the heartless scoundrel you describe him as being,
he has done the little girl a service by deserting her. She will be better
cared for in the Union schools than she has probably ever been before."
[-66-] "That is right enough," said the woman "if it was only a
question of her going to the Union, we wouldn't be putting ourselves out of the
way ; we would all say, 'And a good job too.' But, more's the pity, it is a
question of her being sent back to her beautiful father. Though he has run away
from Mrs. James, he is hanging about the district. Directly the child was put on
the parish the guardians would have him hunted up; he would have to pay for the
expense they had been put to, and to take the child back, and as he couldn't
take it out of any one else, he would take it out of her for his having been
brought to book. I dare say he would be cunning enough to keep himself out of
the clutches of the law, but all the same he would make her poor little life a
misery to her. That is what is troubling the poor old lady. Many a slice of
bread she has pinched herself of to give to the child, and many a beating she
has saved her from. She is very fond of the child, and the little girl is as
fond of her granny, as she calls her, though she is no relation, as a child can
be. All her cry now, poor little thing, is, 'Don't send me to father, granny; I'm
afraid to go to him. Do let me stay with you, and I'll be such a good girl, and
eat hardly anything, and I'll try to work for you.' And the old woman turns
away with the tears in her eyes, and can't answer her. Of course she would be
only too glad to keep her if she had the means, and the father would be only too
pleased that she should, for he looks upon the child as a burden. But there,
when you are as poor as the likes of us you can't do as your heart would wish. I
suppose the end of it will he the poor little mite will have to go to the
brute."
[-67-] "Let us hope not," I said, and passed on to call upon Mrs.
James, for I had become painfully interested in what I had been told. The old
lady answered the door herself, and clinging to her apron was a little girl, a
gentle fragile little creature, with regular, clear-cut features, and looking
perhaps even paler than she was by reason of her raven-black hair and great dark
beseeching eyes.
"This
is the man Birch's child," I said; and even as I mentioned the name an expression
of mingled terror and entreaty came over the child's face, as, burying her head
in the folds of the old woman's dress, she sobbed -
"Oh, don't send me to father,
granny."
"No,
no, my dear," answered the old woman soothingly, and then, catching my signal,
she added, " Go indoors, this gentleman wants to speak to me." The little
one turned at once obediently but reluctantly, casting an appealing look
behind her as she went, and murmuring once more -
"Don't send me to father."
"She appears to be dreadfully afraid of her father," I
remarked when she was out of hearing. "Is he such a very bad man?"
"His pothouse companions would tell you," answered Mrs.
James, " that he was a jolly good fellow, but for all that he really is a
bad, cruel man. The child has good reason to be in terror at the idea of being
handed over to him with no one to stand between them. Her case was bad enough
here, though we all did what we could to protect her. The father not only never
had a kind thought or a kind word for her, he kicked and [-68-]
struck
and starved her. Many an evening I have known him to come home and gorge himself
on the best, and not give her a scrap, though, so far as he knew she had not
broken her fast all day."
"I can
understand your feeling in the matter," I said. "But what do you purpose doing?"
"I hardly know," she answered. "I love the little thing, and will be sorry to
part with her; but my wish is to act for her good. Do you think the guardians
would take her without following up the father?"
"I am afraid not," I replied; "it is their duty to take proceedings
against parents who desert their children."
"I know," she said, "and I suppose it is right that it should be
so; but it is often hard on the children, as it would be in this case. Anything
would be better for her than that she should be forced back upon her father. I
am quite willing to give her shelter and a share of our crust, though she really
needs better food; and I don't see how I could find her in clothes."
"I might be able to get you assistance in the matter of clothing," I
said.
"I shall be very glad if you can," she answered, "since for the
present I can see nothing better for her than to keep her here. It would be a
lesser evil than bringing the authorities down upon the father would be."
I was about to say that, under all the circumstances of the case, I thought
so too, but at that moment Mrs. James's son, who had been looking out for work,
came back. He was a large-framed man, and naturally of a jovial cast of
countenance, but at this time he had the gaunt, white-faced, hunger-pinched
look that marks the [-69-] genuine labourer who has had a lung spell out
of employment. Nevertheless he came up smiling, and the mother,
evidently reading good news in his face, exclaimed, "What, luck at last, Jim?"
"Yes, mother," he answered; "and just in the nick
of
time, ain't it ? Got work to start tomorrow morning; it is for a month certain,
and may turn out a permanent job."
The child had heard his voice, and came to the door again,
the same expression of dread upon her face, the same piteous appeal upon her
lips, "You won't send me to father, will you, Uncle Jim?"
"No, my pretty," he answered cheerily; " you
shan't be
sent to any one that don't want you, not while I am able to work and can get
work to do."
Then, for the first time, I saw a smile on the face of the
child, as she took the labourer's great hand between her tiny palms, and
glanced up in his face with a look of love and gratitude that must have amply
repaid so kindhearted a fellow as Uncle Jim evidently was.
This proved to be a turning-point in the career of Mitey, as
from that time the child came to be generally called in the street, the name
being abbreviated from "poor little mite" and "poor little mitey," the pitying
expressions that had previously been applied to her. If she had really been of
their own flesh and blood, granny and Uncle Jim could not have dealt more kindly
or self-sacrificingly with her, nor could the child have entertained a warmer
affection for them. Their good deed seemed to bring a blessing with it. Uncle
Jim's job did turn out to be a permanent one. Even so the [-70-]
task of
making ends meet was a "tight fit," as his wages were only 17s. a week, but
"Mitey" was always the first person considered, and lacked no material
comfort.
The whole burden of the good work was not, however, permitted to fall upon
the Jameses. Assistance was forthcoming in the matter of clothing the child, and
a number of the women in the street would insist upon having "a finger in
the pie." Some of them who, as washerwomen and charwomen, came in for occasional
gifts of broken victuals, would always reserve a portion of any choice viands
among the gifts for "Mitev." In the same way, if any special stroke of good
fortune had befallen a family, and they were living on festival lines for a day
or two, a share of the good things would be sent to "Mitev;" and in other
ways substantial evidence of neighbourly good-will for the child was shown.
Under this condition of things "Mitey" was very happy; but her original
delicacy of constitution and the hardships she had been subjected to in the
bygone times had told their tale. It was palpable that she grew steadily weaker;
and after a time the women began to whisper pityingly, and with bated breath,
"Poor little Mitey is not long for this world." Nor was she. As the pretty
little face waxed thinner and whiter the great dark eyes appeared to grow
larger, and became possessed of a dreamy far-away look that seemed to tell of
"another world than ours."
It was in the summer that I had first seen her; as the cold weather set in
she was confined to her bed a good deal, and it was at that time I saw most of
her. Though she had been but seven years of age when left motherless, it [-71-]
was evident from her childish prattle that the mother had made a confidant of
her when the father had been out of the way. She had told her too, in a fashion
suitable to a childish mind, of the Better Land, where sin and sorrow and
suffering are unknown, where those who have sorrowfully parted here shall joyfully meet to part no more, and where the only Father is the heavenly one,
who is Love.
There had been no attempt to teach the child anything in the shape of
technical theology or the niceties of creeds, but her faith was perfect, simple,
clear, unquestioning, sufficing, and touching to witness. "Mother is
waiting for me at the golden gates," she would sometimes say; "she told me
she would, and I see her when I am asleep." "I am so tired," she would
wearily remark at other times, " so very tired here, but when the Lord
Jesus takes me I shall ask Him to let me rest on His breast, and He will, and I
shall never be tired again. Then I shall see the angels and mother with them,
and I shall be with them too, and I shall watch and wait for granny and Uncle
Jim as mother has for me, and when the Lord Jesus brings them we shall all be
together for ever and ever; and we shall be so happy, oh! so happy, I can't
tell you."
Some
days she did not care for conversational talk, but would lie with half-shut eyes
softly repeating to herself, "Gentle Jesus," or singing, as well as her
weakened voice would permit, "I'd like to be an angel." She suffered little;
simply and almost imperceptibly faded away.
On
going into the street one afternoon, after having been absent from it for three
or four days, I noticed the [-72-] blinds
drawn in a number of the houses, and concluded that little "Mitey" had
received her call. Such was indeed the case. "Yes, she is dead," answered old Mrs.
James when I asked the question; "she was almost au angel before - she is
quite one now."
And
there really was an angelic look upon the little dead
face. The wearied longing expression had gone, the eyes with their far-off gaze were softly closed,
the
lips were gently and smilingly parted and with her hands meekly crossed upon
her breast, she looked unutterably calm and restful.
When the question of her burial came to be discussed, it was
suggested that now the parish authorities should be called in, as their "coming down"
on the father could no longer harm the child. But "Uncle Jim" would not listen to this proposal. " No," he said emphatically ;
"it doesn't matter much, perhaps, but Mitey didn't trouble the parish in life, so she shall not in death. She shall not be buried as a
pauper, if I
have to live on one meal a day for the rest of my life to pay for her funeral
myself." When his determination became known, however, he was not allowed to bear
all the expense himself. A subscription in aid was organised in the street.
Sixpence was the highest sum given by any one subscriber, while in a number of
instances the sum was only a penny. But even the latter sum was a material
amount in proportion to the means of the donors, and there was not a coin
given that did not represent a heart's true charity. Nor was there one of the
score or more of granny's neighbours who with bowed heads and reverent air,
stood round the [-73-] open grave as "Mitey" was
lowered to her last earthly
resting-place, but was a true mourner. And they (with. of course, granny and
Uncle Jim) were the only mourners there.
During the period of the child's illness some of the men of
the street occasionally "ran against" the father, and acquainted him with
the fact of the illness. He was likewise informed of the death of his little
daughter, but he never came to inquire after the child or sought to attend her
funeral. He still cumbers the earth, but, hardened ruffian as he is, he shrinks
from the sight and slinks from the path of any of those who knew his child and
her history. By thus keeping out of sight he will pass out of mind; and it is
well that it should be so, for he was the one jarring chord in the story of Mitey's life and death.
But the child is not forgotten. Her grave and her memory are
alike kept green. It need scarcely be said that it was Uncle Jim who put the
head-board to her grave. "I knew," he said, speaking on this point, "that
there would be others who had known her beside mother and me, others who had
little ones of their own laid to rest in the same cemetery, who would like
sometimes to look upon 'Mitey's' grave. For that reason I said to myself the
grave should be marked, so I put the cross upon it, with just the one word Mitey
on it, in the first place. Looking at it so, however, it struck me as showing
bare. It ought to have a verse on it, I thought and, having no head for that
sort of thing, I went to a printer's who did mourning-cards, and to a monumental
mason. They both showed me lots of verses, but they [-74-]
all, somehow, seemed to me too grand and flowery for our
little maid. Then I spoke to an old fellow-workman, who is a great chapel-goer
and does a bit of open-air preaching. and says he to me - I remember his very
words - 'No need to go to printers or masons; go to the Book. Go to your
Bible, my boy. Search the Scriptures, and in them you will find not only
everlasting life, but words of wisdom meet to every circumstance of life or
death. I have had my partings here below, my occasions for meditations among
the tombs, and one of the things I noticed was, that of all the memorial verses
the plain Biblical ones were the best, spoke most of comfort and consolation.'
Bearing in mind what my mate had said, when I went to the cemetery the following
Sunday I took a turn about the first-class ground, looking out for inscriptions
taken from the Bible, and I saw the one I took on a swell tombstone. I thought
to myself, if it is well with any child, it is well with 'Mitey,' and so I placed
it over her.
And not only to Uncle Jim, but to others who knew her, and,
despite of their own bitter poverty, were kind to her, the remembrance of "Mitey"
is an influence for good.